| HAYLEY TAPPER |
I haven’t had the pleasure of meeting Hayley in person yet, but she is someone I love and feel so connected to! Her message around slowing down and becoming more in-tune and aligned with yourself instead of being in constant hustle-mode is one that I wholeheartedly agree with, and I love that she also understands the importance of unearthing and releasing our limiting beliefs and fears so we can live our most amazing life!
Hayley Tapper is a success mindset coach for spiritual women with big dreams who want to drop the constant hustle and manifest a life they’re crazy in love with. With a background in psychology and an obsession with all things self-development, Hayley’s on a soul driven mission to help her clients know that anything and everything is possible for them, and they are so worthy of all their dreams and desires.
Hayley is here to help her clients uncover your deepest limiting beliefs, worries and fears and transform them into a kick ass success mindset so that they can harness the power of the Universe to manifest a life beyond their wildest dreams with ease and oh-so-much grace.
WHAT INSPIRED YOU TO JUST GO FOR IT, AND START LIVING THE LIFE YOU LOVE? WAS THERE A TURNING POINT OR AN ‘A-HA’ MOMENT IN YOUR LIFE WHEN YOU REALISED YOU NEEDED TO MAKE THE CHANGE?
The ‘a-ha’ moment that ultimately inspired me to help women drop the constant hustle and manifest a life they love came from my own experience of being stuck in a fear-driven hustle mode. When I first started out as a coach, I was stuck in serious hustle mode – working long hours, early mornings, late nights, and weekends trying desperately to reach the level of success in my business that I desired. I thought if I just worked hard enough I would ‘make it.’
But ironically, the harder I worked the less successful I felt! In fact, I felt stressed, tired and overwhelmed most of the time – not a nice way to feel, and not the kind of lifestyle I wanted to live or promote to my clients! So I started looking at why I was so tied to the hustle mode, and why I felt guilty for taking a day off – or heaven forbid, a whole weekend!
And what I found was that I had a whole lot of fear running the show – fear that my business wouldn’t work, fear that I would be judged by others, fear that I wouldn’t look professional, fear that success only came to those that worked their butts off. As someone who is already very self aware, it was so eye opening to me to realise that I had these limiting beliefs wrecking havoc on my life!
So, like any self-development loving coach would do, I got to work flipping those beliefs and transforming them into supportive beliefs about myself, my business and my abilities. And as I started to see the incredible effects switching my mindset was having on my business and ALL areas of my life – and started to actually feel successful – I became massively inspired to help others to do the same!
HOW IS YOUR LIFE DIFFERENT NOW AND WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO YOU?
Now I have a deep knowing that I am on the right path, and everything is unfolding just the way it’s meant to. I have tapped into my spirituality, femininity, and connection to the Universe to guide me and support me.
Knowing this has been so freeing, because now I know I don’t need to be constantly hustling to make my desires a reality!
WHAT WAS YOUR GREATEST FEAR OR BLOCK (EMOTIONAL, MENTAL OR PHYSICAL) THAT YOU HAD TO OVERCOME TO GET WHERE YOU ARE, AND HOW DID YOU BREAK THROUGH IT?
The biggest fear that I’ve had to work through is the fear that I’ll be judged for being different. Looking back, I can see so many times in my life where I have changed myself to fit into what I thought was the norm. So when I first stepped out as a coach, I had all these fears around being seen in my truth and being judged for that come up!
I worked through this fear with the help of my own coach who would gently and lovingly call out this fear as she saw it come up. As I gained awareness of it I was then able to do this myself, which felt massively empowering.
I found mantras and affirmations so helpful in transforming my mindset from lack and unworthiness to success and abundance. The mantra that I used to help me move through this particular fear was ‘I stand in my truth and release the fear of judgment.’
I also see this fear come up a lot in my coaching clients, and it is something I love helping other women work through because I totally know what it’s like to be in that headspace – it sucks!
HOW DID OPENING UP AND ‘BEING AUTHENTICALLY YOU’ AFFECT THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU OR YOUR RELATIONSHIPS WITH THEM?
Opening up and being ‘authentically me’ was scary at first! But what I’ve found is that the more I step into my true self and share that with the world, the more I draw people to me who are so beautifully aligned with who I am and what I stand for.
And the people who were already in my life? My friends and family are always saying how happy they are to see me doing something that I love and I think really owning who I am as a woman and as a person has brought me closer to the people I love.
DID YOU FACE ANY JUDGEMENTS OR CRITICISMS, WHETHER FROM YOURSELF OR OTHERS?
The biggest criticism I faced was from myself! The old saying ‘we are own worst critic’ definitely applied to me when I was stepping out in my true power and starting my coaching business.
Constant self-love, mantras and meditations have been so helpful in supporting me to move through these self-criticisms.
WHAT IS YOUR TRUE ESSENCE? THE NATURAL PART OF YOUR BEING THAT MAKES YOU SPECIAL.
Love! I don’t think that makes me special though, because I believe in our essence we are ALL love.
WHAT DO YOU LOVE ABOUT YOURSELF?
The thing that I love about myself at the moment is that I’m connecting to my intuitive, feminine, goddess, spiritual side more and more. I find that the more I trust this side of me and lean into it, the more magic unfolds in my life and business. Opportunities are arising easily, people are being drawn towards me who I just love connecting and working with, and everything just feels more aligned.
I used to be very push and strive, believing that hard work = success, so I’m loving that I’m balancing out my hard work with a more gentle, intuitive and feminine energy, and trusting that the Universe is on my side helping me to manifest all that I desire.
WHERE DO YOU FIND BEAUTY AND INSPIRATION?
Nature, always! If ever I feel blocked, stumped or in anyway less than my best, I get out into nature. Sometimes that means a walk with my dog through the park, lying down on the grass for a few minutes, or even just getting outside for a few deep breaths of fresh air and feeling the sun on my skin. I can’t help but feel inspired and ignited after that!
AS A CHILD, WHAT DID YOU ABSOLUTELY LOVE TO DO?
Daydream! I’ve always been a daydreamer. One of my favourite things to do as a child was to sit on the beach and dream of all the exotic and far off places I would love to travel to. I would write lists of my dream destinations in the sand and watch as the waves would carry them away. I believed that it was Mother Nature taking my dreams out into the Universe – yes, I was spiritual even as a kid!
It makes my heart swell with gratitude to know that I’ve now visited all those places and more when I worked as an international flight attendant! The power of manifestation is amazing!
WHAT LIGHTS YOU UP AND WHY?
What lights me up is seeing women overcome their fears and finally discover the woman they’ve always wanted to be. It is such a beautiful transformation to watch and that is why I love what I do SO much!
WHAT MESSAGE DO YOU HAVE FOR OTHER WOMEN WHO ARE WANTING TO RECONNECT WITH THEIR OWN NATURAL WAY OF BEING AND FIND THE BEAUTY WITHIN THEMSELVES?
Know that you have everything you need inside you already. You are enough. You are worthy of all your dreams and desires, and the Universe can’t wait to support you to accomplish them. Trust in yourself, know you are being guided and know that what you desire is already being drawn towards you.